About this site

Last reviewed: 3 June 2026. General information, not medical advice.

notnpd is a small, plain-English site for blokes who’ve been called a narcissist and want to think it through honestly — without the jargon, the viral nonsense, or someone telling them they’re either a monster or a saint.

Who runs it

This site is put together by the notnpd team. We are not clinicians, psychologists or doctors, and we don’t pretend to be. We’re people who got sick of watching a real clinical term get used as a weapon, and who think blokes deserve a calm, fair, accurate place to work out what the word actually means. We keep ourselves anonymous so the focus stays on the information, not on us.

What this site is

• General, plain-English information about what narcissism is and isn’t.
• A fair-minded take: the label is overused and the real disorder is real.
• A nudge toward thinking clearly and, where it helps, getting real support.

What this site is not

• Not medical advice. Nothing here is a substitute for talking to a qualified professional.
• Not a diagnosis. No website — and no online quiz — can diagnose Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Only a qualified clinician can do that, by assessing a whole person.
• Not a “you’re fine, she’s wrong” machine. We say it on nearly every page: “not a narcissist” doesn’t mean “did nothing wrong.”

Where our information comes from

Where we describe the clinical picture, we lean on recognised, publicly available sources rather than making it up:

• American Psychiatric Association, DSM-5-TR — Narcissistic Personality Disorder criteria
• Mayo Clinic — Narcissistic personality disorder (overview, symptoms, causes)

There’s a fuller, vetted list on our sources & further reading page — Australian government health info plus the major clinics and diagnostic bodies.

How we keep it honest

Anonymous doesn’t mean unaccountable. Here’s the process behind what you read:

• Clinical claims are sourced. Where we describe the disorder, we lean on recognised references (the DSM-5-TR criteria, government health info, major clinics) rather than opinion — and we link them so you can check.
• We don’t diagnose. Nothing here scores you or labels you. The reflection tool gives back your own words to think about, not a verdict.
• Everything’s dated. Each page shows a “last reviewed” date, and we re-check the content — especially helplines and links — on a regular cycle.
• Corrections are welcome. If something’s wrong or out of date, tell us; that feedback is how a small site stays trustworthy.

Australian focus

The support services we point to are Australian. The general information applies pretty much anywhere, but if you’re overseas, the helplines won’t be the right ones for you — look up your local equivalents.

Got a correction or a service that’s out of date? That kind of feedback keeps the site honest, and we’d rather know.